Query for current or former NYC peeps

... of the Jewish(ly knowledgeable) sort.

As I'm averaging one or two weekends a month in NYC this year:
Where should I go to services when visiting the Upper West Side?

Preferences:
(1) Conservative (or at least using the full traditional all-Hebrew liturgy)
(2) Egalitarian (or at least affording me the possibility of reading Torah or leading Kabbalat Shabbat on occasion)
(3) Lay-led (ditto)
(4) Not so Orthodox that there is more muttering than singing of prayers
(5) Orthodox enough that there are no musical instruments and the shaliach tzibur stands facing Jerusalem, not facing the congregation
(6) Did I mention the Upper West Side? (though recommendations in other localities would also be good to know about)

I hear that the UWS is rife with every kind of davening experience one could want, but I don't know how to *find* them. I need names, addresses, start times, websites. :-)

Back in October, we went to the much-vaunted Congregation B'nai Jeshurun (where Sarah Jessica Parker married Matthew Broderick, dontchaknow). ( I'd heard that it was large, and vibrant, and it was indeed both of those, )

but I don't know that it's the place for me on a regular basis.

Somewhere I got or found a recommendation for the Shul of New York, which also sounds warm and vibrant, but (I deduce) a little too liberal-Reform for my personal taste. ETA: Oh -- on further research it seems I heard of them because they booked ellen_kushner for their 2010 family Chanukah party, which made me think that they must be a cool place. :-)

I've gone once or twice with mbarr to KOE, which is certainly traditional and small enough for my taste and has the advantage that I'm getting to know people there, but -- I'm still taking suggestions. At least, I'd like to have a better sense of what my options are.

Help?

*hits Post and runs off to the dentist*