letting go
Tuesday, August 6th, 2002 03:46 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
chanaleh
http://www.theartoflettinggo.com/love.html has this to say:
"The one from whom you have separated will not soon be forgotten, though great distances may separate the two of you. Give the memory of that person the chance to help you by insisting on rememb ering the beautiful experiences that united you. The painful ones which separated you will need no coaxing from the memory. Turn your anger into love. Take the qualities you found in the other person and develop them in yourself, use them as a way of bett er experiencing your love for all the others who are important in your life. After all, those were qualities which brought you into love and they are no less worthy today.
"Love has no guilt and no boundaries. In fact, it has no definition. Yes, it is th e force which takes us out of ourselves so that we may share ourselves with others. Yet it is also the force that leads us into ourselves, so that we may understand and prepare ourselves for the act of giving. You cannot resolve the bitterness and pain of the separation you are experiencing by continuing to dwell on these feelings. Come alive with the force which is the essence of life itself. You are leaving one relationship, one stop in your journey. There is still a path before you. Walk in love."
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Why, pray tell, am I Googling on "letting go"? Because of the final talk that Matthew and I had last night, in which many things were said that will not be recapped here, some anger and disappointment were expressed on both sides, and ultimately he wal ked out the door... not to return.
This is different from the breaking-up we had in January, when the official result was to put things "on hold". 'Cause, well, it seems they're off hold now.
I mean, I can't expect to keep a person on hold forever; e ventually he's going to get sick of it and hang up. Obviously.
What *have* I been expecting to accomplish by holding onto this the way I have? Right now, I have no idea. All I know is, I feel cold and empty and like I should finally start taking down all his pictures and letters and putting them away -- except that I just can't face it. Denial is much more comforting.
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"The one from whom you have separated will not soon be forgotten, though great distances may separate the two of you. Give the memory of that person the chance to help you by insisting on rememb ering the beautiful experiences that united you. The painful ones which separated you will need no coaxing from the memory. Turn your anger into love. Take the qualities you found in the other person and develop them in yourself, use them as a way of bett er experiencing your love for all the others who are important in your life. After all, those were qualities which brought you into love and they are no less worthy today.
"Love has no guilt and no boundaries. In fact, it has no definition. Yes, it is th e force which takes us out of ourselves so that we may share ourselves with others. Yet it is also the force that leads us into ourselves, so that we may understand and prepare ourselves for the act of giving. You cannot resolve the bitterness and pain of the separation you are experiencing by continuing to dwell on these feelings. Come alive with the force which is the essence of life itself. You are leaving one relationship, one stop in your journey. There is still a path before you. Walk in love."
***
Why, pray tell, am I Googling on "letting go"? Because of the final talk that Matthew and I had last night, in which many things were said that will not be recapped here, some anger and disappointment were expressed on both sides, and ultimately he wal ked out the door... not to return.
This is different from the breaking-up we had in January, when the official result was to put things "on hold". 'Cause, well, it seems they're off hold now.
I mean, I can't expect to keep a person on hold forever; e ventually he's going to get sick of it and hang up. Obviously.
What *have* I been expecting to accomplish by holding onto this the way I have? Right now, I have no idea. All I know is, I feel cold and empty and like I should finally start taking down all his pictures and letters and putting them away -- except that I just can't face it. Denial is much more comforting.
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