Public advisory

[chanaleh]

No, not of the emotional sort (though more on that in a moment). I'm going down to Florida tomorrow to spend a couple days with my ailing grandparents while my dad is also visiting there. I'll be back Tuesday night.

Predicted weather includes highs around 70 (and, of course, thunderstorms), so I doubt I'll get to the beach or the pool, but at least it won't be the hovering-around-freezing Boston will have. And, also at least, this has forced me to get a jump on present-shopping. On the minus side, it means my "days-until-Xmas" count is effectively reduced by 4. Yikes!

About my last post: Nothing new or major triggered it, just lots of the usual sadness that I carry around with me these days (that was the point, really). My floundering love life (about which I keep *meaning* to write more but failing), not one but TWO of my relationships that are over but I can't bring myself to really let go of them, my fleeting youth, my feeling that I don't know which way is forward for me right now. It all occasionally gets me into a place of feeling terribly, terribly sorry for myself. :-} And then it fades back to a bearable level again. Which is about where I am now.

So to close, here's a relevant quote I found the other day:

"Love seeks above all intimacy, presence, togetherness. Not happiness. 'Better unhappy with her than happy without her' -- that is the word of a lover... Not even happiness is more precious to love than withness."
-- Peter Kreeft

Comments

[navrins]

Re the quote: Hmm. There's some ring of truth about that. And it explains some things.

[chanaleh.livejournal.com]

Things you've experienced, or merely things you've observed? :-)

[navrins]

Truth, from experience and observation both.

Explanations, from observations - like, why people stay with SOs who are abusive or who they pretty clearly don't like at all.

Hugs!

[dhs.livejournal.com]

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[dpolicar]

Continuing my tradition of responding to your quotes with (hopefully relevant) quotes:

"Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime; therefore we must be saved by hope.
Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history; therefore we must be saved by faith.
Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone; therefore we must be saved by love."
-- Reinhold Niebuhr

[dpolicar]

Or, perhaps more targetted to its audience:
Kol haolam kulo gesher tsar meod.
V'haikar, lo l'fached klal.

(“All the world is a narrow bridge.
The essential thing is not to fear.”)
-- Rabbi Nachman of Bratslav

[dpolicar]

and...
"We fix our own hearts like a lone man building a dam, or repairing a foundation. At some point, engineering principles are left behind, do not scale, and we are left helplessly to say, "this looks like it should go here", or "let's see if this holds". Yet the most elaborate and complicated structures can begin as a handful of mud daubed onto an empty space."
-- M. Strata Rose, 1995

[tenore.livejournal.com]

That is a great quote. I have felt and do feel that way on many an occasion. Part of me rebels against that and says that love shouldn't be that way. And then the pragmatist in me sees that it just is.

[red-queen.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah, I grok the quote about love. What I'm still miserable about is that my X didn't. I was very unhappy for the last 2-6 months we were together, but I was determined to work through it. He gave up. And sometimes, I'm still furious. Doesn't do me any good.